IS YOUR EX BLOCKING YOU FROM FINDING NEW LOVE?
Tired of being solo when the whole world seems coupled up? Many of the people I work with want to improve their wealth area but I’d say finding a new relationship (or strengthening an existing one) is also the number one priority of most people. When I do an analysis of your home and interview you about your habits, will I find any of these feng shui blockers to a new love?
Problem: Photos of your ex. In your home, in your wallet, on your computer, in photo albums, tucked away in boxes. These reminders of your past serve as placeholders signaling the universe that you are either not over your ex or already taken. In any case, any new love interest you might meet will wonder if you truly have room in your life or your heart for a new relationship to bloom.
SOLUTION:Dump the photos. You heard me. Go cold turkey if you really want to bring a happy healthy new relationship into your life. Exception? If there are children involved you should put photos away in a storage bin so they will always have their family history and give it to some other family member to keep safe for them until they are old enough to receive the photos.
Problem: Love notes, ticket stubs from special events you went to with your ex, stuffed toys and mementos from the happy times in the relationship. One of my clients even had a framed wedding invitation hanging over the entrance to her bedroom—and she’d been the one to decide to divorce her husband two years prior because she didn’t love him. Another client used the date he asked his exwife to marry him as his computer password…4 years after their divorce his password remained unchanged and his lovelife stagnant.
SOLUTION: For the same reasons mentioned above: rid yourself of all this Ex-Love Clutter and you’ll be well on your way to attracting someone new.
Problem: Divorce papers, settlement papers, reminders of the breakup.
SOLUTION: Why are you holding on to these items? Buy yourself a shredder and move on (the universe is watching!).
Problem: You still have your engagement and wedding rings. If you’re saving them for a child, DON’T. Do you want your child to inherit divorce chi energy on their wedding day?
SOLUTION: If it’s a valuable stone, sell it and put the money in a trust fund for your child. If there are no children involved, splurge on a new wardrobe and vacation where you might meet someone interesting.
Problem: You want to maintain a friendship with your ex but one or both of you doesn’t know how to do that without overstepping boundaries. For example, when emailing each other you still use your ex’s pet name when addressing them or your own pet name when signing off. Or, when you have a “big moment” in your life, you find you must share it with your ex before anyone else (that includes a big problem where you ask for advice, good news or bad news, etc). Maybe you find out your ex is in the hospital and instead of a simple “Get Well Soon” message, you inappropriately run to their bedside and use the opportunity to work through your own intense feelings on them while they are trying to recover.
SOLUTION: Make a clean break. No need to keep the lines of communication open (unless there are children involved—in which case, you will communicate about issues concerning only your child’s welfare). You still want to be friends with your ex? Save it for a later date. Maybe one of you has moved on but the other hasn’t. Give each other the gift of time to heal old wounds. Time to clear out the Ex Love Clutter so they can make room for a new love. By not engaging when your ex has a moment of weakness and reaches out to you, you’ll be doing him or her a huge favor and you’ll be doing yourself one, too. The universe will take notice and send someone new your way.
Problem: You have a new relationship but it feels like something is keeping you from ‘going to the next level’.
SOLUTION: You may think you’ve moved on–and even moved in together–but you’re still blocking yourself from experiencing a deeper relationship with a new love. You may be afraid to get hurt again. That would be natural. You can use feng shui to help you remove that fear and all the other obstacles to love. Take inventory of your life. If you recognize any of the scenarios I’ve described, take steps toward the solutions.
It may take some time. It may bring up some emotions you thought you were done with long ago. It may be unthinkable to toss out your past as if it never existed. You may want to get some professional help. Be gentle with yourself. See what happens with your new love once you’ve cleared out the remnants of your past relationships.
KATY ALLGEYER (a.k.a. Fishgirl) has twenty+ years of Feng Shui expertise, which she blends with her highly developed intuitive ability, metaphysical shamanic healing methods, and formal art and design training that make her uniquely qualified to help people realign their environment to support their full potential.
Feng Shui Color – Finding The Right Colors For Your Home
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Feng Shui Compass – Finding Your Home’s Precise Direction
The feng shui compass is an instrument that was invented by the Chinese centuries ago to produce measurements and sophisticated analysis of the direction of the home. This important data is then calculated to make a detailed map bagua over the layout of the home. An in depth bagua results in understanding the precise location of problem areas of a home which then contributes to remedies which can be used on those areas to fix the problem. So if you are looking to improve the ‘qi’ or energy of your own home and do so with precision, you should first depend on the measurements of the compass.
This ancient Chinese compass is also known by the names ‘lo pan’ or ‘luo pan’, and is usually utilised in all parts of the world by professional feng shui practitioners. Only someone with advanced knowledge of the inner workings of the art of placement is able to understand all of the complexities of this instrument. It is composed of a normal looking compass in the middle using magnetic needles and includes the marking of every one of the degrees of a circle. What sets this apart from a traditional compass however, is the group of concentric rings that surround the center. Each ring has specific markings that are all important for completing a detailed and accurate reading.
The reading is supposed to be made a couple of steps outside of the home. The individual doing the reading must remove all things crafted from metal which includes jewelry, watches and keys. This is essential, because metal objects will likely interfere with the movement of the magnetic needle. The individual must also watch out for any cars in close proximity as which can also cause problems. Lastly, this person should step away from the front door, because most doors come with metal hinges. The ‘lo pan’ is held in front of the person at waist level and the needle will then move towards the precise degree, giving a measurement of a direction for the house.
After the direction for the house is measured, the encircling rings of the feng shui compass goes to work to calculate a group of other details that may all affect the final reading. If this is done by an expert practitioner, he or she should then create a floor plan of the entire house based off the measurements and use a bagua map around the layout. The final result then becomes a tailor made analysis of your house and appropriate feng shui tools and techniques can be used specifically for you.
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Finding the Right Feng Shui Colors For Your Home
The key to finding the right feng shui colors for your home is to first learn two very important principles of feng shui. There are five elements in feng shui that influences us and our surroundings. These five elements are Wood, Fire, Earth, Metal and Water. We need to create balance between these elements in order to achieve harmony in those surroundings. The Bagua is a tool that helps locate different areas of a room or the entire home that corresponds to different areas of your life. Simply use this tool to determine the areas of your room or home that needs changing and make the necessary changes to improve your life. Finding the right colors is easy as long as you are able to use these two principles together.
According to Chinese astrology, each person is born under a year which is associated with one of the five elements. Each element is then represented by one or more colors. The five elements interact with each other in both a productive cycle and a destructive cycle. The productive cycle shows how each element creates or produces another while the destructive cycle shows how each element destroys or is destroyed by another. Once you know the colors representing each element, you will be able to figure out the colors you should surround yourself with and the colors you should stay away from. Incorporate more colors representing your own element as well as the colors of the element that produces your element. Stay away from the colors representing the element that destroys your own element.
Wood: Green, Brown
Fire: Red, Bright Strong Yellows, Orange, Pink, Purple
Earth: Light Yellow, Light Brown, Light Sandy Tan
Metal: White, Gray, Silver
Water: Blue, Black
Feng shui colors are also used to represent the eight sections of the Bagua. This tool can be used by holding it with the black section facing you and the red section pointing to the direction straight in front of you while standing at the entrance of either an individual room or the doorway of your home. You will be able to precisely map out the eight sections of that space and its corresponding areas of your life. Look for the areas of your life that needs improving. Incorporate more of the color used to represent that area in that particular section of the room or home. The diagram below shows us that the five elements are also used in the Bagua. This is important, because it will determine what kind of objects are appropriate for each given section of the room. Different areas of your life can be improved considerably by placing the right objects in the right places.
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